6 – You Do You When It Comes To Your Ceremony!
“Your wedding day is about you making the commitment to get married. Sounds so obvious, doesn’t it? But it’s not uncommon to hear people say “Let’s get the boring ceremony out of the way so we can get the party started!” This makes me want to cry “WHYYY” a la Outkast.
You two unique people, at that precise moment, on that one day, choosing the person you’re choosing for life, is the whole reason the wedding day exists! So that moment should be just right for you. You don’t need to follow a formula, please anyone, or grimace while the words “sexual union” are uttered in front of your uncle.
To help decide on your ceremony, consider the values or background that make your relationship what it is:
- Is religion important to you? Then work with your religious leader to focus on the role religion plays and how to make the ceremony really “you”.
- Is the legal element key to you? Then explore your options for legal ceremonies and how to make them as personal as possible. You should be able to include readings and music that means a lot to you.
- Do you want to tailor your ceremony and have it focus on you as a couple and the unique moment that is your wedding? Consider a celebrant-led ceremony. (they can also add personal stories, dogs, drinks, dancing, fun locations and laughter, lots of laughter).
- Is there somewhere special to you, specific people you want to be involved, music that makes your heart happy?
My tip is to spend time together thinking about what that commitment means to you, and the perfect way to make it. Imagine it’s 10 years’ time and someone asks you to describe your ceremony – what 3 words would you like to use?” – Libby, Celebrant Libby